HomeHome for the weekend. Day 2.

Don’t know how the day passed. In an instant.

Nothing really happened. It was just nice and relaxed.

There are so many things that have to be done here in the house before everything will be back to a ‘normal’ household, but all of that will happen. It’ll take time but it will happen. And tonight, I’m sitting on our kitchen table! I know it doesn’t sound like much, but it’s the first time in many months. It’s not even dusty!

We’ll have to organise Pádraig’s room and his stuff again, as we had to do each time he moved hospital or apartment. A health website counts moving house amongst the 5 most stressful situations in life (with death of a loved one, divorce, major illness, and job loss). A BBC site asks “Is moving home one of life’s most stressful events?” – I don’t know anyone who has “moved” as much a Pádraig did over the past two years and a bit. It has become part of his life, I guess. (And by far *not* one of the most stressful ones, I can tell you for nothing.)

We’re settling in. He’s settling in. Even though this time it’ll be just for the weekend. We’ve started to put things back into their place. We even discovered how many uses a high-tech hoist can have!

It has been a good day today. – Except for the news that one of our young friends with an ABI had to return to a nursing home, hopefully only for a very short while.

All of a sudden the sun came out. Wenn Engel reisen (when angels travel), my mother would have said.

Instead of going straight home – yes! Pádraig is homehome for the weekend! – we decided to go to the Botanic Gardens. If you’re not from Dublin and haven’t been there: put it on your list for your next visit. The gardens are absolutely beautiful, full of colours especially in the autumn, gorgeous herb gardens, and one of the most spectacular green houses on earth.

It was like walking through a jungle. Kind of an organised jungle though. Like the way the German countryside is like Leitrim, only organised. There’s something missing. The wild bit. The bid you can’t predict. The adventure. The chaos. The surprises. The lack of control.

I was thinking: Pádraig’s life has been like Leitrim, like the real jungle. Not like the German countryside, not like the Botanic Gardens. And I was thinking that he’d probably want it to continue like that. And as much as that is possible, that’s what I would like to help him with. He’ll direct us, he’ll show us the way. We’ll just have to go along with him, moving some ‘Stolpersteine’ out of his way. No more.

We had to leave when the installer arrived this morning to fix the ceiling hoist that I had intended to proudly present to our visitors yesterday. By the time we were ready to leave, it was too late for Pat to come along and we had to call a friend who dropped what she had to do to sit in the back of the Doblo with Pádraig while I was trying to find the shortest way around the world-famous Web Summit that was blocking the whole of Dublin’s traffic.

We had a brilliant evening yesterday and a good night’s sleep. The enormity of what happened yesterday hasn’t quite sunk in yet. And tomorrow, Pádraig will leave the NRH again to stay with us for the weekend!

He had a busy day today. And a really eventful one as well!

Having made it safely back to the NRH, he had a quick breakfast and then had an appointment in the seating clinic where his new wheelchair had arrived. It’s Swedish made and has a great look and feel. We’ll test it over the coming days, especially at home to see whether it’ll fit through all the doors.

But the highlight of the day, of the month, was, undoubtedly, the OT cum SLT session where Pádraig did his tricks with a switch that, when pressed, makes a sound. The OT decided that “his left foot” was the one to do the work.

First: press once, press once, press twice,… and each time he ‘delivered’.

Then: press once for ‘yes’, press twice for ‘no’ … and he answered all the questions correct.

Finally: the OT said different letters of the alphabet, one every five seconds. Each time she said ‘C’, he had to press the switch. And each time he did it!

Isn’t that unbelievable!?

With some more practice and consistence, he’ll be able to spell words! “C” – what a wonderful letter!!!

This is a test, test, test, … 1,2,3… 1,2,3

I remember this from concerts during sound checks.

Today’s test was slightly different. And we passed. “We” are the dozens of people involved in getting Pádraig home home.

About half a dozen of them arrived this morning at around 7am at the house to make some last fixes, to clean in and around the extension – even to get three huge boards to cover the ground leading in to Pádraigs bedroom door, so that the wheelchair could easily be pushed across.

The really thorough, really nice, and really helpful ‘crews’ from the NRH and the HSE arrived with Pádraig at around 11am.

We tested the lifts, hoists, bed and other equipment. Pádraig was turned to the left, to the right, and back to the left. He was lifted out of the wheelchair and back into the bed. And he didn’t complain once.

As all was ready and in order, Pádraig will be staying here tonight. And, if all goes according to plan, he will stay here over the weekend. AND he’ll get discharged from the NRH, again: if it all goes according to plan, on Friday 13th – I’ll be pushing hard for Saturday, 14th. Not because I am superstitious.But you’d never new!

In exactly a week’s time it’ll be two years since we left on a jet plane.

Tonight, we’re here together. Together. In the Dreamboat! Sheer bliss.

 

Could you please open the door and unload to let me have a look at all that stuff in your car? – said the security officer in Holyhead to me this morning.

When he saw the expression on my face he started to laugh and couldn’t stop… I probably couldn’t believe how good his own joke had been. And then he said, “Oh go on! I wouldn’t do this to anybody! Hahahahaha hahahaha hahaaaaa!” At the end, he had tears in his eyes and he could hardly breathe because he had been laughing so much. Border security guards have a tough and boring life, I thought. And I had made his day.

I cannot believe that this is all over. I had finished emptying and cleaning the apartment just 10 minutes before the ‘Genosse’ from the Genossenschaft arrived to check the place and fill in the Übergabeprotokoll. It was the same person who had filled in the Vorläufiges Abnahmeprotokoll some weeks ago. Everything was fine. The only thing he had to do was to print out the Übergabeprotokoll from his mobile printer, all eight pages of it, and we both had to sign it.

And off I went, direction Calais. Train under the Channel. Folkestone, direction Holyhead. It was eery driving on the M25 with almost no other cars being around. And then flashing lights were passing me by. First I ignored them. Then I didn’t believe what they were saying. M40 closed. M1 closed. Roadworks. Fortunately, the restaurants beside the motorway all have wifi, so I pulled in to update my ‘map’ and copy down new directions, just when I thought I was completely lost in a limbo circling around London on the M25.

Still can’t believe that this is all over.

Pfffhhh!!!

Just arrived at a “Tunnel sous la Manche” which I hope translates into “Eurotunnel” – whoever translated it or came up with the name must have “forgotten” the ‘Euro’-bit. Otherwise, if you won’t hear from me tomorrow it was a different tunnel to who knows where!

By the way, I still cannot believe the amount of stuff that fits into the Doblo. Unbelievable!

Unbelievable also that this is the end of Tonndorf…

 

  
    
    
    
 
Off to the tunnel of who knows where…

You take off your boots at the end of a long journey.

Mine were so badly broken that I decided to dump them.

I started wearing them in Dublin just before we left for Germany almost to the day two years ago (it was the 11 of November we left). I wore them almost every day and in a way they became part of me. They changed over the years. And they were, as I always wanted them to be, Spanish Boots of Spanish Leather, one of my favourite songs for a long time.

Today was the day we (almost) emptied the flat. Two really good friends from Hamburg, an Irish woman and her German partner – both brilliant and very generous people.

I had rented the biggest truck I’d ever driven, a 7.5 ton Mercedes Benz – Oh Lord, would you buy me a Mercedes Benz! This one was really long, high, wide, big… Everything we wanted to move and it went up to Tating, our old and new place of residence in Germany.

Tomorrow morning, I will need to clean up the apartment, squeeze more stuff into the Doblo, make sure the city of Hamburg old furniture squad arrives in the morning, and hand the apartment over to my Genossenschaft.

It feels like the end of a long journey and time to get rid of the old boots.

I’ve got another pair back home. For the next leg.

Oh – yesterday, while I was packing, Pat rang and told me that Maitíu O’Casaide was being interviewed by Kieran Hanrahan on Céilí House on RTÉ Radio One, and that they were talking about Pádraig. Listen back to that section of the programme here or the full programme here.

We went out for a walk.

Pat and I.

We went to the places we went to with Pádraig.

In Eilbek.

We went back to the Schön-Klinik. To Haus 2. To the main house, where the exhibition was still going on commemorating 150 years of this hospital that once had been a hospital for mentally ill persons; that once passed through some of the darkest years of German history with no glory.

In Tonndorf.

Were we went for walks when no-one was there telling us anymore what he was supposed to do and what not.

Where we went to the supermarket – with lots of fear and uneasiness. To the café with even more uneasiness but pride and joy that we could buy him something to eat there and that he enjoyed it.

I’m on my own in the apartment. Off to Tating tomorrow with Pádraig’s stuff on a big van. And then one more night… in Tonndorf.

We are making progress.

Putting things in bags and in big plastic sacks. You wouldn’t see it. The place looks as full and packed as it did before. But we are getting very close to the point that we’ll be able to move.

Tonight, I met my friend (everybody should have one) to have a beer in Nagel. If you have been in Hamburg you’ll know Nagel, just opposite the train station.

Pat met us in Nagel arriving there via the train station – full of asylum seekers. For her, it was the moment, another moment, where abstract news on the telly turned into reality. All of a sudden, what were news reports from far away countries happen right in front of you.

In Germany, there’ll be a big big discussion about letting migrants and asylum seeker in. My friend said that Angela Merkel is a bit like Luther – she’s just gotta do what is right. She see no options to doing what she is doing.

About 22 hours got us to Hamburg. Back to the place we went to almost two years ago to get appropriate therapy for Pádraig.

Today, builders are putting the finishing touches to a brand new purpose built extension that’ll be ready for Pádraig to move into next week.

I’ll go to sleep now and will wake up with a clearer head!