Living in the moment. Not being captured by the memories of the past. Not worrying about what might happen in the future.

It’s advice that is easily misunderstood as: don’t worry, relax, whatever has happened has happened and you cannot change it, whatever will happen will happen and there’s nothing you can do about it anyway.

I think it means: accept the past with all its memories full of beauty and terror; try hard to do what is right; but don’t despair nor blame yourself if the outcome is not what you would have liked it to be.

Living in the moment does not mean that you should forsake your precious memories nor does it mean that you should stop trying to make the world (or even a minuscule part of it) a better place.

Living in the moment, being grounded in yourself, “serving God and not mammon”, means finding inner and outer peace, it means hard work and constant effort, it means enjoying life, having fun, pushing boundaries.

It’s what Pádraig has been doing for five years now. Each and every day he has taught me how to live. I short, small, slow lessons so that I could stay with him and would not be lost on the way.

I want to share all the practicalities around life with a severe acquired brain injury, the fight for medical care, the fight for social care, and the fight for rehabilitation. But as important all these things are, the most important lesson is that none of us can live without the others, and never will. It is the love and the care